It was a feast of feedback last week: feedback sought, given, analysed and absorbed – for the leaders whom I coach and for myself.
In leadership, it is probably the one thing most sought after, the least given, the most feared and the most appreciated.
And perhaps it is the same in life.
Ken Blanchard said “feedback is the food of champions”. We see how social media works on the principle that people like to be given attention, to receive feedback, particularly with the ‘like’ button. The ‘tougher stuff’, for some termed ‘honest criticism’ on the other hand, as Franklin P. Jones said “is hard to take, particularly from a relative, a friend, an acquaintance or a stranger”.
Constant and often
At one level, we are constantly receiving feedback from the universe; if we are to believe our lives are a direct reflection of our thoughts and actions. Similarly, others are also constantly feeding back to us about the impact we have on them. It is just sometimes we miss the cues.
That is why, every now and again, and ideally more often – it is a good idea to explicitly seek feedback. We may not be guaranteed that the other will give it, or that they will give it in a way that we would like to receive it, but if we suspend judgement as to whether it is good or bad, negative or positive, developmental or motivational – and just consider it information given with positive intent, it has the power to transform our lives.
And effectively repackaging feedback, there is the idea of feedforward as suggested by Marshall Goldsmith. It is when we ourselves identify what we want to improve, and the other person simply gives suggestions as how we may go about that. They don’t refer to the past. We don’t comment or analyse. We listen and we give our thanks.
Looking forward to hearing your suggestions as to how Earth Converse and I can better serve you, to serve people and planet.
Photo by Wynand van Poortvliet on Unsplash
Thank you dear supportive friend. Really appreciate it.
Was not well when I read it (kicked, hard, in the stomach by a vicious tummy bug!) and so needed a little time & less pain to think up some constructive feedback/feedforward to offer. But here are 2 little nuggets now: 1. The occasional typo or grammatical error can sometimes suggest the writing-to-posting process was a little rushed, and 2. The content and style of your Quintessenza blog posts are so consistently great I just wish FAR more people could be getting to see, enjoy and be inspired by them! I'm no expert on the business of blogging myself, but… Read more »